Reunion 2012!

It was a good reunion. Really good. There weren't as many people as we hoped for but those that were there really had a good time and ate a lot.
It was wonderful to see the youngest generation getting to know their cousins and to be able to introduce our beautiful cousin Katherine (Granddaughter of Val) to some of the family was great. She has inherited that aura of serenity that Val had and it soothes and calms people around her. Fascinating to watch the effect and so lovely so see so man family traits passed on. What do I mean? Well, Katherine walks like us. NO really, she has the same walk that Aunty Muriel had and Cousin Pat walks that way as do Yvonne and her daughter Michelle. I am told that I have the same walk and so does Andrea, and now Katherine has too!

The first picture shows you the cake you missed - a Costco Celebration cake. There is a beautiful sponge hidden under that frosting and aren't the flowers just superb?


 Cousin Colin is NOT doing the actions to the song Y.M.C.A and I don't think he was describing the fish that got away either but it does look really funny. The white-haired person facing him is Cousin Andrew. My Colin is tickling our grandson Matthew, the son of my Michael who is sitting on the floor. Next to him is his youngest boy, Joseph.

The fat lady is not singing, honest. I am simply cuddling my new great grandson - Bleddyn Francis - who is just 13 days old and is just so scrumdiddlyumptious. The baby clothes they have these days are just fabulous. Those jeans are so soft. Isn't he just a peach?

The last picture is Cousin Leonard and a decidedly biblical Cousin Andrew putting the world to rights before we packed up all the picture albums and the family history files and adjourned to our house where we sat around the table and talked and ate and drank cups of tea and coffee.
Leonard's daughter Debra managed to join us this time and immediately became overwhelmed with information as the names of relatives long departed were tossed and parried across the table. It was so good to be able to introduce her to Katherine and to little Bleddyn too.

These reunions are such a good idea because we don't have to maintain a sombre face, like you do after a funeral and it is good to just sit and talk and revive the old stories. To listen to Cousin Pat as she remembers things her mother told her - Pat is the oldest of us. The only disappointment was that Cousin Colin's laptop took ill and we didn't have the means to Skype our relatives in America or Australia.
All in all a really enjoyable afternoon, made so special by the people who managed to be there. A thank you to
Colin and Ann, Andrew and Jayne, Leonard and Brenda and Debra, Pat and Tony, Andrea and Simon and Emily, Michael and Jane and Matthew and Joseph, Katherine and her lovely baby Michael, Mark, Kerry Ann and Rory and Anwyn and Bleddyn, and my lovely Colin.

I have just realised that while it seemed that there weren't as many people there this time, the numbers are pretty close - 26 including me and that's about the same as last time, so that's even better than I thought. Well done us!!!

My Dad

I have just realised it is father's day. I knew it already, but I just realised it and thought that I would write down some stuff about my Dad. Bernard Francis Gibbon.

Age about 12 in the garden at 81 Redland Stret

He was born in 1914, the fourth child of Frederic Gibbon and Margaret Annie Guilfoyle. He told me that when he was three he was knocked down by a tram on Malpas Road and was caught under the cow-catcher on the front. He didn't really remember his mother because she died when he was four and a half. He remembered sitting on a bed that had a woman in it. His big sister was there and his two brothers. He remembered a window in a high stone wall and Fred saying, "Our Mam is dead and she's in there on a slab." He remembered being at a grave with flowers on it. He grew up with Ma taking his mother's place and he always told me that she treated them all the same. It didn't matter if you were her step-children or her children if she took the boiler-stick to one she would use it on all. If she threw the carving knife at one you knew she would equally throw it at any of the others.

Sitting at my piano - obviously outside
 a few glasses of whiskey

 He left home after she did exactly that, she threw the carving knife at him and it stuck in the door next to his head so he decided that the time had come to leave. He moved into the flat in Clytha Square where Steve was living with two mates. He said he didn't last long there because they were pigs and never cleaned up or washed a dish and he was doing it all. They also never bought food but if Dad bought any they would eat it. He joined the Army by mistake around this time, that's a whole story on it's own so that'll be another blog.
Steve was in the Merchant Navy so he stayed with Muriel when he was ashore.
I thought I had told the tale of how he met my mother but I see that this is in a back issue of the Gazette. I'll tell it another time.

Most of you know that Dad lost his right leg at the end of WW2 and spent the rest of his life proving that he was just as good as any man. What he actually showed was that he would have been impossible to live with if he had two legs because Mum and I spent our whole lives trying to keep up.

He built the Nissen hut so that we had somewhere to live and then ten years later he built the bungalow in front of it so that we had a proper house to spend the rest of our lives. Then WIMPEY built a whole estate of houses in the fields next to us so Dad sold the bungalow and bought Llandowlais Farm. It had no electricity, no running water and no drains but that was no problem. We lived upstairs in the bedrooms using bottled gas for cooking and lights and until the water was brought into the house we made do with carrying it from the cold tap in the yard.

Then there was a brief stay at a post office on Cardiff Road - he often said it was the worst mistake of his life but from there he bought Rhiwlas Mill and we spent a very happy nine years there before my marriage fell apart and Dad could not accept this.
We fell out over it because he told me I just wasn't trying hard enough.
After I met Colin things got worse because Dad was convinced that Colin was after my money! I moved out and even though my mother was hoping to live in the Mill until she died Dad decided to sell it and spend the money on himself so that Colin wouldn't get it.

Ironic then that it was Colin that suggested they should come live with us after Mum had the stroke. That it was Colin that got up in the night to lift Mum back into bed when she fell out. Colin that drove them wherever they wanted to go.

But that's my Dad. Eventually they had to go to a nursing home because I didn't have the strength to lift Mum on my own and if she was going to a nursing home then he was going with her.
He was the Bravest, stubbornest, idiosyncratic man I ever knew. I loved him for being my Dad and I hated him for being that also. I miss him every day since he died in 2003, but I am glad I don't have to put up with him. I feel guilty for them having to go into the home but I know it would have put me in a strait-jacket to have continued caring for them.
Just for today I can remember all his good points and I can say Thank you Dad, I love you

More family stuff

Cousin Sandy has asked several times for more explanations about who fits where into this complicated family of ours. As Cousin Travis has now been dragged into our web I thought I should, perhaps, take another look at some of our ancestors.
I have ummed and aahed about putting names and dates on simply because of the paranoia that people happily share about identity theft. I will put a little bit about it in the next edition of the Gazette and then I will expect answers.
In the mean time let's take a look at the next generation of the Nathan family.

John Nathan, son of Samuel, married Sarah Green, daughter of Abraham HaLevi, at the Great Synagogue, London 20th August 1845.

Sarah was the granddaughter of Efraim Levi Green, who I am told be descendants came to England from Amsterdam in 1796 on a herring boat with his wife and two children.
I have not researched the Amsterdam connection yet, in fact I am hoping that someone else in the GREEN family will do that.

John and Sarah had quite a few children - 15 altogether.
Hannah born abt 1847
Rachel born 1848 married James Jacobs 1877
Samuel born 1851 died 1928 Melbourne Victoria, Australia. Married (1) Rose Waterman (2) Belle Minton
Sarah born abt 1852. married Alfred Bishop 1874
Silva born 1853. married William Linley 1882
Elizabeth born 1855. d 1930 London. married (1) Charles John Guilfoyle Seymour 1879 (2) David Waters 1920
Abraham born 1857. d 1938 Melbourne Victoria. married Emma Ottolangui 1884.
Jane born 1860 died 1865. cause of death, house fire.
Un-named child born 1861. died 1861
Fanny born 6 Sept 1863. died 7 sept 1863. according to the family prayer book she was born "with a quantity of black hair" died 10 past 5 in the afternoon.
Leah born 1865. married Samuel Lyons.
David born 1867 died 1940 Melbourne Victoria
Benjamin born 1868 died 1952 Melbourne Victoria
Henry born 1870 died 1871
Amelia born 1872. married George Basaglia 1894

Doctor Carlson will operate... Eeeek!

I was going to save this little story for storytelling Sunday but I decided I just couldn't keep it to myself a moment longer. It only happened yesterday and I have been chuckling over it ever since.

We went up the hill to see the Bluefunnels last night and had dinner there. We had fish and a tiny fishbone stuck itself into Ann's upper gum, right by her back teeth. I know, I know it sounds extremely painful, and while Ann didn't sob or anything it was pretty obvious that it was hurting a lot.
Doctor Bluefunnel agreed to operate so they went off to get tweezers and then there was a lot of muffled muttering for a few minutes and then they came back with grins on their faces so we knew everything was ok.
Colin and I had spent the time working out how we were going to get Ann to hospital and clear everything away and lock up etc. It was a relief not to have to do that I can tell you.
Anyhow, Consultant surgeon Bluefunnel said he was impressed with himself because even with his shakey hands he had managed to get hold of the fish bone and remove it. We all said how good that was and how well he had done it and then he continued "I think you are really lucky." "I suppose I am," said Ann, "You did very well"
"I know," said a very proud Mr Bluefunnel "Even with my shakes I didn't drop the tweezers down your throat!"

Cousin Travis

I promised you the web address of Cousin Travis

http://www.travismichaelholder.com/

I just think it is so exciting that the acting talent of Charles John Guilfoyle and Elizabeth Nathan have come down through the family to Travis.

Lets show you

Charles and Elizabeth had five children
John Daniel, born 16 December 1878. London
Harriet Sarah, born 24 November 1880, Dublin
Margaret Annie, born 23 June 1882, Darlington
Charles Seymour Aaron, born 28 July 1884, Southport
Bessie Hope, born 15 February 1896, Chorlton upon Medlock, Manchester.

Most of us are descended from Margaret Annie, who married Frederick GIBBON.

Roxanne, Renaye and Travis are descended through Bessie Hope. I am trying to discover how many times Bessie Hope was married. My Dad told me it was five times but I haven't had that confirmed.

Bessie married Harry Edward Holder, an american sailor, 27 December 1917 at the Register Office, Newport. Their first child, Harry Lewis Edward, was born 13 December 1918 at 81 Redland Street. This was the home of Margaret Annie and Frederic Gibbon.

Some time before the birth of their second child LeRoy in 1920 they went to America. They had two more children
Alice in 1921
Ralph Ernest in 1922.

Roxanne and Renaye are the children of Leroy

Travis is the son of Ralph.

There are other cousins from this branch but I will share those with you another time.
Take a look at Cousin Travis' website. I know some people will say I am imagining it but I can see a family likeness between him and several of the rest of us - poor man!

Hannah's Piano Recital

Hannah is a granddaughter of Cousin Sandy, who lives in Arizona. Age eleven when she performed in front of an audience. I think it is a fabulous performance, and it is good to see the artistic gene has travelled down the family. I hope this link works, take a look

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hsPp-rz9nA


I will be giving you a link to Cousin Travis' website soon. He's an actor, in Hollywood no less. From where I am sitting that sounds so, so glamorous. Perhaps he'll write something for the GG and tell us a little of his exciting life.


Anyhoooo, take a look at Hannah, she is fantastic. Congratulations to her and her proud parents - and, of course, proud grandparents Sandy and Bob.

Cousin Jackie

Today Cousin Jackie left us. She will be greatly missed.

I thought I would share a few images of Jackie, but I was surprised at how few pictures I have. If anyone has any pics of her I would love to have some for the Gibbon Gazette.

Jackie and Ann, Porthcawl. Jackie age 15 Ann  not quite 15.

The first one was taken on that memorable holiday when we stayed in two caravans in Nottage. "Just five  minutes from the sea". That's five minutes by car or if you run like h*ll along the shortcut. When there are several small children, a pushchair and a few sulky teenage girls the walk could take a lifetime. Especially when Yvonne spots a boy with a mohican haircut and shouts "OI! where's Hawkeye then?" Who knew we could run that fast?

Jackie and Yvonne. Obviously in their Whitsun dresses

 Jackie could always manage to be clean. She could wear white shoes all day and they would still be white. Yvonne and I did not have that talent. We only had to put white things on and they would immediately look scuffed and grubby. We managed to improve with age but Jackie was a natural

With Brother Paul and Cousin Russell at the Reunion and Zeros birthday party

I am so glad I had my 60th birthday party with Jackie. All my life she taunted me with the fact that she is four months older than me but on that day we shared our cake - we shared it with Cousin Pat too, who was ten years older than us. She still is ten years older than us but you know what I mean.
Because we were so close in age she was the closest thing to a sister that I ever had. I loved her and hated her in equal amounts because she was MY Jackie. We didn't talk for a long time. Not because we fell out or anything but simply because we both had so much going on around us and when Aunty Muriel died the glue that held the family together disappeared. I knew what was happening but I was in my world and she was in hers.
One thing I do know is that if I had gone to her for help she would have given me the clothes off her back if I needed them. She would have told me what a daft mare I was for getting to that state but as she spoke she would be bundling up her clothes for me to take.
You always knew exactly where you were with Jackie. You were loved.

Today there was a birthday

The birthday girl listening hard

Today, Sunday, we celebrated a birthday. Cousin Colin's wife had an at home birthday this year because cousin Colin had keyhole surgery on his knee yesterday. He has arthritis which has damaged the joint so the nice kind surgeon rummaged around and smoothed off  some sharp bits, repaired the cartilage, wrapped it all in a dressing and sent him home.

Two Colins for the price of one

cousin Len

Cousin Len's wife Brenda

Abirthday gift

Lots of people made their way to the top of their hill and spent a while laughing and talking and eating birthday cake. I took a few pictures.

We ate chocolate - this was an important taste test of the new Kit Kat bars. We all agreed that the Orange chunky bar tasted of orange, the double choc was chocolatey but the caramel was not really flavourful. We could not test the peanut butter flavour because it could not be found in Morrisons that morning.

Cousin Len regaled us with stories about my father and the fox. This was a tale from before I was born so I found it very interesting.

We talked about our ancestry and how the family looks have been passed down. How Len's daughter Debra is so like her Grandmother and how my grandson, Martyn, is the image of Cousin Leroy.

All these relationships will be made clear when we get the website up and secure.

All in all it was a lovely afternoon

More about Josephine

I now know that Josephine married Edward Joseph in the March quarter of 1909 in Fulham, London. Edward's death was registered in the June quarter 1921 Steying, Brighton and according to the probate calendar he was at a sanitorium. Could this be TB? Do I need to get the death certificate or can we live without knowing? Hmmm, I'll think about it.
Were there any children of the marriage? Do our Australian cousins have any letters from England at that time telling them about family events. Perhaps something on the back of a photograph will make sense with this new information.... we'll see.
In the mean time I would love any photographs of older relatives to share on this blog.

another piece of the jigsaw

Today I received the marriage certificate of Josephine Joseph and William George DAER. Josephine is the person who registered the death of Bessie NATHAN. She said that she was a niece of Bessie so I searched for a marriage of a Josephine to someone called DAER and sent for the certificate.
Josephine is a widow aged 43 and her father's name is James JACOBS.
Bessie's sister Rachel NATHAN married James JACOBS in 1877 so that fits.
The witnesses at the marriage of Josephine and William are George and Amelia Baselgia.
Amelia is the youngest sister of Bessie and Rachel.
See how it is all meshing together? Well it gets a little better too because Josephine gives her address as 6 Iliffe St, Walworth and somewhere I have a note telling me that a Hannah NATHAN was living at Iliffe St around the time that Frederic GIBBON and Margaret Annie GUILFOYLE were married - 1905 -
Now what I have to do is find out if Josephine had any children when married the first time and if she had any brothers or sisters.

More about the Website

Christmas Lunch - Mmmm gravy!

I apologise for the delay in saying any more about the website but you know that cold that everyone had over Christmas? well there was only one of them in our house so Colin decided that we should share. He had it for New year and it was my turn on Wednesday. As a result I retired to the settee on Saturday morning and I have stayed there except for bathroom visits and going to bed. I have drunk plenty of fluids and even eaten fruit!!! I do feel better today so I could look at the comments on the previous post and add my thoughts.

First is there anyone in this family who could build the website? Colin and Ann have said they will pay for it for five years, which is absolutely fantastic, and we think there should be a rousing cheer! What we need now is someone who can set it up so that all us cousins from all over the world have access to it and we can each put up family pictures with a bit of detail about which ancestor it is. We can also collect the family stories there and put any important news like weddings etc.
I think we should make it accessible only by family - I know it can be done - just because we don't want just anyone nosing into our business do we? For example, Mr Bluefunnel (for the explanation of why they are called the Bluefunnels look here) and our man in Mexico discussed the growing of Viagra, Apparently growing it themselves means it would be organic and therefore could be sold for more. We wouldn't want that discussed too openly would we, after all everyone would be jumping onto our bandwagon and the price would drop!
We could also put the regular Gibbon Gazette onto the site in PDF file format and then everyone could download it themselves.
For people who don't have access to a computer I am happy to continue to send out paper copies.
I am sure that if we had a central place where we could pop in and add a little bit of news or leave a message for other members of the family we would keep in closer contact.
We'll see.